when fast feels like fate
Love bombing
An intense, fast-moving idealisation phase at the start of a relationship — gifts, attention, declarations — designed to create dependence quickly.
What it looks like
- ·Daily "I've never felt this way" messages within the first weeks.
- ·Talk of moving in, getting engaged, having kids unusually early.
- ·Calling you their "soulmate" before they know your siblings' names.
- ·Extreme generosity, followed by guilt when you don't reciprocate at the same pitch.
Why it's so confusing later
When the relationship turns difficult, you compare the present to the love-bombing phase and conclude "they used to love me — I just need to get them back to that." The phase wasn't sustainable love. It was an early signal.
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