a private companion
Clarity is protection.
A private emotional safety companion designed to help people recognise unhealthy relationship patterns, strengthen personal safety, and make informed decisions with confidence.
Emotional safety. Relationship clarity. Empowered choices.
what it does
A quiet toolkit for clarity, safety, and emotional steadiness.
Decode confusing messages
AI-assisted reflection tools for texts, voicemails, and conversations that left you spinning.
Learn moreUnderstand relationship patterns
Learn about gaslighting, DARVO, coercive control, trauma bonds, love bombing, and the Cycle of Abuse.
Learn moreCreate a safety plan
Build practical safety plans and document important information privately, on your own terms.
Learn moreTrusted Circle
Code words, emergency phrases, and trusted contacts who can be reached with one tap.
Learn moreDate & outing check-ins
Schedule a quiet check-in when meeting someone. If you don't respond, your circle is alerted.
Learn moreSanctuary
Grounding exercises, breath work, and reflection tools for nervous-system recovery.
Learn morelearn the language
Words for what may have felt nameless.
Many survivors say recognition came when they finally had language for what they were experiencing. Each topic below opens to a short, trauma-informed primer — written for people, not lawyers.
when reality keeps shifting
Gaslighting
A pattern of denying your reality so consistently that you start to distrust your own memory, instincts, and emotions.
when raising a concern becomes the crime
DARVO
Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender — a four-step move that turns the person who was hurt into the one being accused.
the slow narrowing of a life
Coercive control
A pattern of behaviour that, in aggregate, makes a person feel monitored, dependent, isolated, or afraid — even without physical violence.
why leaving feels impossible
Trauma bonding
A strong emotional attachment to a person who is harming you, formed through cycles of cruelty and reconciliation.
when fast feels like fate
Love bombing
An intense, fast-moving idealisation phase at the start of a relationship — gifts, attention, declarations — designed to create dependence quickly.
the pattern that explains the chaos
The cycle of abuse
Four phases that often repeat: tension building → incident → reconciliation → calm. Recognising the cycle is often the first step toward clarity.
naming the tactics
The Power & Control Wheel
A framework developed in Duluth, Minnesota in 1984 to map the tactics used to maintain control in abusive relationships.
our mission
Sister Signal was created from lived experience.
We provide accessible tools, education, and emotional clarity for individuals navigating confusing, unhealthy, or emotionally unsafe relationships. We believe information, self-trust, and awareness can help people make empowered decisions about their future.
Read the full storydesigned quietly
Built for privacy. By design, not by accident.
Sister Signal is a safety tool first. Every design decision is filtered through one question: would this be safe if someone took the phone right now?
Full safety & privacy commitmentsPrivacy-first design
What you write stays in your account. We collect the minimum needed to serve you.
Optional anonymity
Use Sister Signal without an email or name. A device identifier is enough.
Quick Exit
One tap disguises the app as a calculator. Useful when someone walks into the room.
You control your information
Export, delete, or pause your data at any time. No dark patterns.
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For DV organisations, shelters, and advocates.
If your work helps survivors, we'd love to find ways to support each other.
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